Peter Mullison proposes in a recent article, that there are five types of people one should talk to about financial problems:
- Friends,
- Family Members,
- Spouses,
- Religious Counselors, and (thankfully)
- Bankruptcy Attorneys.
If one is undecided about whether bankruptcy is appropriate in their situation, he suggests they should elicit the advice of the above parties.
While I understand the sincere sentiment in undertaking that path, it is potentially very dangerous.
Advice From a professional is key
While I’m all for getting support and feedback from those close to me, unless they’ve gone through a bankruptcy or had the same issues (and even if they have), the first person I would talk to about my financial problems would either be my accountant or a bankruptcy attorney.
If I was still undecided, I would then talk to another accountant or bankruptcy attorney (the famous “2nd opinion”).
Bankruptcy poorly understood
The biggest issue with talking to others about things they know nothing about is you’re going to potentially get very bad advice.
There isn’t a week that has gone by in my 22+ years of practicing bankruptcy law that a potential client doesn’t tell me that they talked to someone in the past or present who told them they couldn’t file a bankruptcy, or that bankruptcy would destroy their life, they would lose everything they own, their credit would be “destroyed”, etc.
Or, there’s the opposite end of the spectrum where they hear from someone that they can file bankruptcy for $500 and wipe out everything and there are no consequences because that’s what Betty’s son Bam-Bam did after he assaulted someone with his club.
Usually the non-professional’s assessment of their options is completely wrong.
Everyone’s situation is different and bankruptcy is very complex.
You can’t just rely on what your friend’s cousin’s stepfather did in a bankruptcy case as being how yours would go (positively or negatively).
For you South Park fans, this isn’t the time to ask yourself: “I wonder what Brian Boitano would do.”
This isn’t a lot different than making a decision about whether to see a doctor or whether to follow a doctor’s advice.
A personal story comes to mind from a relative of mine who had prostate cancer. Several doctors he went to said the only thing he could do that would work is have a radical prostatectomy and remove the whole thing (which has all kinds of permanent side effects).
Said relative wasn’t sure that’s what he wanted, so he persisted until he found a doctor that said they could do localized radiation and it would work just fine.
After researching that option further, he opted for that solution and it worked fine, with no side effects, and 25 years later he is still cancer-free. I know he used his wife and friends for support and perhaps to even weigh the options provided by his different doctors, but it was the professional’s advice that governed his decision making process.
This may be precisely what Mr. Mullison meant in his article, but it wasn’t entirely clear.
Keep Your Friends Close and Your Attorneys Closer?
My point is this: I agree with Mr. Mullison that it is important to share your issues and concerns with those close to you–particularly your spouse (in fact, in California at least, there is a duty to inform the spouse if one is going to file bankruptcy because it affects both spouses).
But the decision on what to do about these problems ultimately should be made with advice from professionals.
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Mark Markus has been practicing exclusively bankruptcy law in California since 1991. He is a Certified Specialist in Bankruptcy Law by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization, AV-Rated by martindale.com, and A+ rated by the Better Business Bureau. His webpage is www.bklaw.com
